For those that really know me, know that I am a very sensitive person. From time to time, my feelings get hurt fairly easy or I take things too seriously, which results in my feelings getting hurt. It took a very long time to really accept this part of me because society has defined what type of person I am based on this characteristic. When you think of someone being sensitive it’s always associated with always crying, being soft or throwing hissy fits and while that may be some people’s reality, it is not what being sensitive really means. For so long, I allowed ignorant perceptions defy a part of me as weak when in fact, I was being weak for allowing someone to tell me who I was.
"When you accept being sensitive you are allowing yourself to be vulnerable and open."
It wasn't a secret to me that I was sensitive, but because I believed the negative things associated with this characteristic, I tried to hide it. When you accept being sensitive you are allowing yourself to be vulnerable and open. However, I saw vulnerability as a weakness and weak was the last thing I wanted to be. So I suppressed a lot of my feelings. By doing so, I became very irritable and easily triggered. The littlest things would set me off and I was ready to get in someones face if I felt attacked. Looking back, I laugh at my ignorance because, in hindsight, I was still reacting sensitively. I had to learn that this was something I could not run away from. I had to learn to not feel bad for being sensitive because what I was taught was not the correct depiction of my character.
"I have to keep reminding myself that I cannot allow people to negatively defy the greatness of being sensitive."
With that being said, I had to educate myself and understand the idea of sensitivity. Being sensitive means you react more emotionally in most situations. It's more like having a deeper reactive response than the typical person. Some will read this and ask "well isn't that just overreacting?" The answer is no. Overreacting has been linked with being sensitive for so long, we believe that reacting on a deeper level is one in the same. It is not. I have to keep reminding myself that I cannot allow people to negatively defy the greatness of being sensitive. There are so many positive traits with being a sensitive person like the ability to feel things deeper for others and/or situations. I am able to understand things on another level than the typical person and what is greater than being connected with other people on another level? So the next time someone calls you sensitive, do not take it as an insult and know they are just ignorant on what being sensitive really means.
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