The Many Side Effects of Being a Natural Black Woman

Last month I hosted my first event Tender, Love, and Curl under my business BeLeigh Inspired. Words cannot explain how rewarding it was to host such an event. Connecting and building relationships with the many women that attended the event alone fills me with joy. Natural hair has been a passion of my mine for some time and I felt the need to create the space for us! A duty I plan to continue to do each year as the event grows and the connections continue to expand. 

Natural hair is far from simple and the complexities of ones curl cannot be placed in a box full of misconceptions.

While some may be confused how an event about natural hair ties with my brand or wellness in general, know that natural hair is beyond just hair! It's a culture! The goal of Tender, Love, and Curl was to celebrate Black women's natural dopeness. The beauty of natural hair cannot be defined by one simple word. Natural hair is far from simple and the complexities of ones curl cannot be placed in a box full of misconceptions. I aimed to empower Black women to not only learn how to love and accept our natural hair as is, but I also wanted to provide the space for us to share our journey's with people who would understand what its like to be natural. 

Although natural hair became this huge trend and relaxer sales began to plummet, the Black community still struggled with the beauty of all natural hair types. More brands started to try and cater to the Black market by creating "ethnic" products, but we ignored the real issue that no product can fix. Things like being anxious before an interview because we already know we will be judged if we chose to wear an afro versus a bun, feeling like a failure because you struggle with knowing how to take care of your own hair or having loved ones telling you how ugly you are for returning to your roots. Many do not believe these type of situations have an effect on Black Women or our community in general, but I am here to tell you that it does and effects almost every natural everywhere.

We lost a sense of self that connected us not only with our roots but how we viewed ourselves as a people.

For generations, we hated something that centuries ago we found so much pride into the point we lost our way. We lost a sense of self that connected us not only with our roots but how we viewed ourselves as a people. It impacted how we viewed and defined beauty. A beauty we could not uphold naturally. So when we had enough and returned to our natural states, we became uncomfortable. Uncomfortable with something we were no longer familiar with. It created a divide amongst those who are relaxed and those who are natural. However, it is time to celebrate how beautiful and dope we are. We all have a journey and we all have a story. Be proud of how far you've come and be proud of the curls you've been blessed with!

Check out some dope photos from Tender, Love, and Curl 2K18 https://beleighinspired.org/events-1