Anyone that knows me, know that I love everything about natural hair. I could talk about it for hours. My journey to natural made me realize so much about not only myself but also how society views natural hair. My natural hair has led me to love myself even more, especially when I had shorter hair. My face was front and center, and I was unable to hide behind long hair. I’m not saying that I thought I was ugly, but I had a period of time that I did not feel the prettiest. My features were enhanced by one simple change. I started to get more attention once I learned what I was doing. It took some time to grasp, but I’m getting the hang of things. People thought my hair was so perfect and I had to remind them that it isn’t. However, my imperfections made it even more beautiful.
Unfortunately, I learned that some people thought otherwise. From the corporate world to individuals in the Black community, I could not fathom why people were so intimidated by something so amazing. I began to second-guess how I would wear my hair in interviews and wondering if guys would talk to me when my hair was out; I hit another roadblock in my journey. Some people would think this is something small, but it is more than just hair
Women are not accepted by (some) men in our culture due to how society has structured what beauty represents. Job opportunities pass us by because we decided to wear a twist-out to an interview versus the classic bun. This was something I always had in the back of my head. I had to reevaluate my situation and come to terms with the ignorance in my community. If a black man does not want to be with me because he thinks my hair is too nappy or too short then he clearly is not the man for me. If a job wants me to conform to something or someone I am not, then it is not the job for me. I want more black men to embrace natural hair because natural hair is a part of black culture not just for women. I want a job that accepts my natural hair no matter what style I decide because 9/10 I am not rocking a bun (nothing against buns, I just struggle lol). I want people to scratch the ideal beauty standard that we have to have relaxed hair or think natural hair is so ugly because when I look into the mirror I see beauty in every kink and curl I have. Transitioning may not be easy, but I promise it is worth the struggle because it is more than going natural; it is a new journey to much more. It may not be seeing yourself in a different light or learning about beauty standards because everyone’s journey is different. However, do not feed into the natural hair stigmas that society has put on us.
Until next time :)